Waiting and being patient is highly over-rated. Those that tell you that you should just wait for your ex-boyfriend to come back to you probably have some memory loss and forget what it's like to try to wait for an ex to come back to them. If you had some hope though or some sort of sign that things were going to work out, the waiting probably wouldn't be so much of a problem. You know in your heart that what you had was real and you're sure that given some time you can get him back but you want to know for sure. You want to know what's going through his head and where you stand right now.
You understand that if you hound him and try talking about the breakup and getting back together you will spook him. You know that nothing good will come of trying to convince him to come back to you and that you'll only push him away by chasing after him. Still, the days pass and at times you fear the worse. You know that in time he will either come back to you or he will find someone new. With every passing day the chances of some other woman catching his eye grow. What should you do? You really don't have many choices at the moment, do you?
Not many of us want to learn to be patient and if we had a choice, it wouldn't be something as important to us as a relationship to use as a testing ground for our patience. Our love life is a very important part of our life and we don't want to be patient when it comes to the relationship with the one that we love the most. It is a cruel path that we have to follow though and the more impatient we are, the further away our goal of getting back together with our ex becomes. This is just how relationships work and after a breakup, every time that we reach out to try to reconnect with our ex we turn him off and push him away. We actually might push the one that we love into the arms of another woman, if we're not careful.
While thinking about how long it's going to take to get your ex back might seem overwhelming, it might become a little easier if you can break it down into a more manageable time frame. Think of taking one week to not think about your ex and instead think only of yourself. Focus on you and your well being. Strive to make yourself happy and heal your heart. Even think about what you want in your relationship and how you want it to be. Yes, you can still think about your ex, since you don't really have a choice, but instead of thinking about what negative things might happen, think about how great it's going to feel when you finally do get him back.
Keep yourself busy doing the things that will improve your mood and your attitude. Buy yourself a gift as a way of showing that you really do appreciate yourself and value yourself. Spend some time relaxing and not worrying about when he is going to come back to you or how you're going to get him back. Think only of yourself and your happiness. Rent some funny movies and let yourself laugh. Laughter can be very healing. Overall, what you're trying to do is improve your mood and your outlook on life. People who are happy and are optimistic are much more attractive to everyone when compared to those that are sad and depressed all the time. You will find that your boyfriend will also find you more attractive if you have a positive attitude and if you are smiling. Going for sympathy from your boyfriend just doesn't work and men tend not to be attracted to women with a lot of drama or negative emotions in general in their life.
Understanding what a man needs to feel attraction as well as how you can play off of these needs and desires is crucial to actually winning him over. This isn't some form of trickery. This is just basic psychology and how relationships often work. Knowing that you can get him back and understanding how you will get him back will shorten the amount of time it's going to take to bring him around and the sooner you start feeling better about yourself the happier you will be for all the right reasons.
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